DATING!!!

Boy is dating hard. You can read about it or fantasize or even do it. But that wont make you any better at it. You try being yourself and the other person just doesn't understand you. You try being someone else and things just don't seem to work out. Then you try going with the person that you're really not interested in and they end up dumping you because you're not...whatever...enough.

Then it seems like when you're not looking, a bunch of people show up out of no where looking for your love, affection, and attention. Then you're forced with the obligation of making a choice. (Because you cant have your cake and eat it too) But which one do you choose? You know that, statistically, whoever you choose may be gone in three months after you've given it your all and they decided it wasn't enough for them.

Then there's always the unseen things like trust and honesty and loyalty and friendship and blah blah blah blah blah...

So what do we get from all this? You have to decide your purpose for dating in the very beginning. Is this a dating relationship with a purpose or is it just because? Am i dating this person because I see them as a potential lifelong mate? Do I know this person's purpose for dating me?

These are very important questions to ask yourself... Especially when all the people from the past, present, and future start showing up trying to "holla" at you.

I'm going to start talking about dating after high school and how.... interesting it is.

Any comments...?

Friends?

Coming to college has taught me many things. It has taught me a lot of the different types of people there are in the world. People definitely aren't what you expect them to be. They can be very racist, immature, insecure, abused, or maybe even alcoholic. Truthfully, you never know what people are going through. You might think that you're going to be the best of friends throughout your years in college the first day you meet them. You may even think that you won't ever talk to them again in life.

But one thing I've come to realize about people is that they don't change. People don't change just because they're in college. They don't become less afraid or smarter or more mature. They all stay the same. The same people that gossiped about others in high school are the same ones who do it in college. The ones that partied all the time are most likely still doing it. You have the same problems you had in high school. If you didn't do your work then, then you probably aren't doing it now. Nothing is going to be different.

I know this sounds sad, but I've decided that it's crazy to befriend people on a certain level. I don't think I have any friends because of fear that they can't be trusted. I don't keep anyone too close to me for fear that they'll betray me in one way or another. In college it's easier to see what kind of a person they are because you live with them.

What do you think about college friendships?

Christian Racism?

Eastern is supposed to be a Christian School, I think its like Non-Denominational or something. But people do and say a lot of things you may not expect from so called Christians. After being here for a while you start to realize that people aren't any different than they would be at a secular school. Students here engage in sexual activity, drugs, alcohol, and not to mention the profanity you might hear in the dining commons. But what suprises me even more than those things is the amount of racism here on campus.

One student of color shared her racist experience with a white student. For privacy we will call her N.
N was walking on campus with another student of color. A white student walked over to them and asked "So are you guys in a gang?" N replied, "Because we're black you assume that we're in a gang?" "Well yeah!", was her response.


Another student who I will call A told me about an experience after the election of president Barack Obama.
A is an African American student from New York. She was walking one day in chapel when a white student came to her and asked, "Why are black people so hype that we have a black president?"

Another student of color was in an INST 150 class when the professor asked her an appauling question. K was the onlky black student in the classroom where they were discussing Christian and secular music among college students. When K did not raise her hand to say that she had heard the same music as the other students, the professor asked her, "So K, what do black kids listen to if they don't listen to that?"

I'm not going to post my personal opinion on this topic because I'm really interested in what others think about this.

The Cafeteria Food Mystery

Has anyone ever eaten college food? Oh my goodness it's horrible. It takes weird but you eat it anyway. Then after you eat it, about a half hour later, you're in the bathroom pooping for another hour. Do you know the feeling?

Here at Eastern we have Sodexho as our food service company. I work as a student employee for Sodexho three days a week. I have friends who work there also. Because I'm working on the "inside" now, other students have asked me about what they put in the food to make us poop like that all the time. I've never seen anything strange being put in the food, but then again I don't watch them make it.

There is an ongoing myth/rumor that college food companies put laxatives in the food to make students use the bathroom more often. The reasons why they do this varies. Some say its because students often don't feel comfortable "letting loose" away from home. By putting a lavative in their food it forces them to use the bathroom whether they like it or not. Others think that they do this because if any of the food is prepared incorrectly it will pass through your body anyway and they won't get sued.

There is also a rumor that says that college food has a lot of carbs and fatty "feel good" food so that students won't be stressed about the pressures of college. They want students to feel happy and they think the food will help them out a little.

In all truthfulness, it's illegal for them to taint the food in any way for any reason. They can be sued for that.

This is a question I would really like to know the answer to because I'm tired of feeling sick after dinner. I should feel good after dinner.

First Semester

It's really hard to adjust to things when you don't know what to expect. All of a sudden you're paying for your education and sharing a room with a stranger. You have to take care of yourself because your parents are no where to be found. (they're probably vacationing on the other side of the country celebrating the fact that you're gone.)

But soon you get the hang of it. You start meeting people and having fun. You find out things you never knew about people and new ways to have fun. My blog is all about my life as a student at Eastern University.

It's about what it's like to go to a Christian University where you think every one is going to be nice and share the love of Christ with you. It's about how people are just people no matter what kind of religious affiliation they assume to have.

I talk to different people who go through things at the university that you normally wouldn't think could happen at a Christian school. But life is full of surprises at Eastern!